“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou
I will likely NEVER tell my story because I am more concerned with protecting my son and his wife whom I have chosen to forgive but not trust unless there is serious admissions on their part. Not likely. I truly hope their child never abuses them like this.
Hi Laura, Thanks for sharing this, there are undoubtedly many other parents who are affected by this as well. I have not shared my own story either, for much the same reasons. I know I share the blame for what occurred, but the sentence is harsh and there are two sides to every story.
thx. In my situation, nothing I could have done better or different to deter my DIL neediness for absolute control. Funny thing, I am pretty sure she knows we could easily accommodate her neurosis IF she just bothered to be real. Now they live a lie. I think the set of practices associated with this ideology require rationalizing the indefensible and they know it, making it all the worse for them and the people they are scapegoating.
I pray for those who sided with the narcissist/alcoholic - and am growing through unimaginable grief from the loss, betrayal, disappointment, disrespect, disbelief and soul crushing pain- never having had present parents who would at any cost protect and provide would have been life changing - but not my path
So row row row your boat gently down the stream merrily merrily merrily merrily life is but a dream - forgive everyone everything every minute to be forgiven everything every minute ………..the point here GROW and get better ❤️🩹 not BITTER - do not let them continue to control your emotions when they could care less namaste 🙏 Mo
It is satisfying to know that many estranged adult children are suffering, just as we parents are. I have had visions of my daughter just going about her life without a care in the world. Now I realize that is probably not the case, and it satisfies my sense of justice. ❤️
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou
I will likely NEVER tell my story because I am more concerned with protecting my son and his wife whom I have chosen to forgive but not trust unless there is serious admissions on their part. Not likely. I truly hope their child never abuses them like this.
Hi Laura, Thanks for sharing this, there are undoubtedly many other parents who are affected by this as well. I have not shared my own story either, for much the same reasons. I know I share the blame for what occurred, but the sentence is harsh and there are two sides to every story.
thx. In my situation, nothing I could have done better or different to deter my DIL neediness for absolute control. Funny thing, I am pretty sure she knows we could easily accommodate her neurosis IF she just bothered to be real. Now they live a lie. I think the set of practices associated with this ideology require rationalizing the indefensible and they know it, making it all the worse for them and the people they are scapegoating.
I pray for those who sided with the narcissist/alcoholic - and am growing through unimaginable grief from the loss, betrayal, disappointment, disrespect, disbelief and soul crushing pain- never having had present parents who would at any cost protect and provide would have been life changing - but not my path
So row row row your boat gently down the stream merrily merrily merrily merrily life is but a dream - forgive everyone everything every minute to be forgiven everything every minute ………..the point here GROW and get better ❤️🩹 not BITTER - do not let them continue to control your emotions when they could care less namaste 🙏 Mo
Travel in peace.
It is satisfying to know that many estranged adult children are suffering, just as we parents are. I have had visions of my daughter just going about her life without a care in the world. Now I realize that is probably not the case, and it satisfies my sense of justice. ❤️