Hi Lia, I covered that briefly at the start of Part 1. But, the more I consider this trend from differing view points the worse it seems to look for the individuals concerned, their estranged family and society at large. Truth is I've been on both sides of this at various periods over my life, though never as a "thing", which seems to be a modern phenomenon driven by the sorts of therapist type language and concepts I have explored in this series. It seems to me that what is manifested in online communities is taking on a technocratic driven cult-like aspect, which codifies the practice and amplifies the emotional and relational harms while offering to do the opposite.
Those communities are full of folks who have had an entire process of lived experience prior to their joining an online space. Which tends to color the type of language in those communities, because everyone is using a type of shorthand based on their shared point in the process. I think you might find way more nuance if you encounter one of us in the wild
I also don’t know that I agree about the shared responsibility in families to stay intact. It’s a social contract which is subject to all sorts of fissures.
Furthermore, a lot of people upset by the estrangement of younger generations fail to see the ways they have become estranged to their own older generations.
I understand what you say, there's no doubt many feel they have cause and history that lead them to express as they do. What is missing is the voice from the other side of these narratives and any sign of empathy or acknowledgement of the emotional harm they have caused themselves in taking this stance. Many of their parents are publicly vilified and their expressions of emotional pain and often bewilderment disparaged and scorned without right of reply. My concern in this has firstly been to lay bare the rules of engagement for parents and then to explore some of the drivers and consequences of making family breakup a social movement.
Tell me, what is your personal dog in this fight?
Hi Lia, I covered that briefly at the start of Part 1. But, the more I consider this trend from differing view points the worse it seems to look for the individuals concerned, their estranged family and society at large. Truth is I've been on both sides of this at various periods over my life, though never as a "thing", which seems to be a modern phenomenon driven by the sorts of therapist type language and concepts I have explored in this series. It seems to me that what is manifested in online communities is taking on a technocratic driven cult-like aspect, which codifies the practice and amplifies the emotional and relational harms while offering to do the opposite.
Those communities are full of folks who have had an entire process of lived experience prior to their joining an online space. Which tends to color the type of language in those communities, because everyone is using a type of shorthand based on their shared point in the process. I think you might find way more nuance if you encounter one of us in the wild
I also don’t know that I agree about the shared responsibility in families to stay intact. It’s a social contract which is subject to all sorts of fissures.
Furthermore, a lot of people upset by the estrangement of younger generations fail to see the ways they have become estranged to their own older generations.
I understand what you say, there's no doubt many feel they have cause and history that lead them to express as they do. What is missing is the voice from the other side of these narratives and any sign of empathy or acknowledgement of the emotional harm they have caused themselves in taking this stance. Many of their parents are publicly vilified and their expressions of emotional pain and often bewilderment disparaged and scorned without right of reply. My concern in this has firstly been to lay bare the rules of engagement for parents and then to explore some of the drivers and consequences of making family breakup a social movement.