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Lisa Wyatt Knowlton's avatar

This post particularly helpful for precision. The factors you cite are skills in an emotion maturation. Every licensed therapist working in this issue ought to be able to articulate and engage their young adult clients in these factors. That’s the authentic remedy to estrangement (aka escaping adulthood).

The tragedies and agonies of estrangement are serious for both parents and their loved ones.

Warm thanks for your insightful efforts to educate. Bravo!

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laura's avatar

As a child I was physically abused by our father, I cannot imagine a need to "protect" myself once I become a free adult. I found it easy to understand and forgive my father, I even sat down with him and my mother at 24 and explained how his rageful fits harmed me, he listened. He did not apologize, nor did I need him to or expect such. Years later my mother sent me a beautiful letter apologizing for her lack of virtue in failing to protect me. Again, I did not need an apology to appreciate all the wonderful and important things both of them provided me. To my mind, the people who might need to distance themselves are those who were sexually abused or have a very challenging mentally ill parent.

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