Personally, I think this is the most important point within your posts so far. I very much appreciate your observation that both parents and children may view the other without full understanding of the experiences that may have shaped belief systems.
Re. revised interpretations: I have heard two adults say that in a therapy setting they talked about their excellent childhood, which included so much more freedom that parents allow now. That they could ride their bike to go fishing and come home when the streetlights came on, only to have the therapist tell them they were wrong. That was not freedom, it was neglect. And saddest of all, these formerly-happy adults went away feeling unloved. What is the point of doing that?
Hard to like that comment. I swear the vast majority of these “therapists” have a sadistic trait. Abigail Shrier’s “Bad Therapy” is on my list TBR. I wonder if she discusses your point?
I agree that parents aren’t able to fully understand their adult child now that they estranged, but there is a bit of hope that has the child starts to experience the same trajectory - marriage, in-laws, children -hopefully, they can rethink their prior misunderstandings of what their parent was trying to do.
Again, the question why is this happening right now? Who exactly is gaining by promoting this estrangement ideology? What is the ultimate objective? So far, I have not ready any insights on the specific "why?", "who?" and ultimate objective. Thank you for your important work on this heart-breaking topic.
Blaming another to avoid accountability seems like a strong possibility. The strangers often say something like, Good parents raise happy, productive children. I am neither, so I must have bad parents. Thanks for ruining my life, mom and dad.
Again you link/smear the MAGA movement to QAnon, I recommend Nicole Shanahan short film, "MAGA People." Clearly you do not understand the political shifts happening in the US.
Personally, I think this is the most important point within your posts so far. I very much appreciate your observation that both parents and children may view the other without full understanding of the experiences that may have shaped belief systems.
It's a paradox that thinking you truly know someone maybe the very thing that prevents you from truly knowing them.
Re. revised interpretations: I have heard two adults say that in a therapy setting they talked about their excellent childhood, which included so much more freedom that parents allow now. That they could ride their bike to go fishing and come home when the streetlights came on, only to have the therapist tell them they were wrong. That was not freedom, it was neglect. And saddest of all, these formerly-happy adults went away feeling unloved. What is the point of doing that?
Hard to like that comment. I swear the vast majority of these “therapists” have a sadistic trait. Abigail Shrier’s “Bad Therapy” is on my list TBR. I wonder if she discusses your point?
I agree that parents aren’t able to fully understand their adult child now that they estranged, but there is a bit of hope that has the child starts to experience the same trajectory - marriage, in-laws, children -hopefully, they can rethink their prior misunderstandings of what their parent was trying to do.
Again, the question why is this happening right now? Who exactly is gaining by promoting this estrangement ideology? What is the ultimate objective? So far, I have not ready any insights on the specific "why?", "who?" and ultimate objective. Thank you for your important work on this heart-breaking topic.
Blaming another to avoid accountability seems like a strong possibility. The strangers often say something like, Good parents raise happy, productive children. I am neither, so I must have bad parents. Thanks for ruining my life, mom and dad.
Again you link/smear the MAGA movement to QAnon, I recommend Nicole Shanahan short film, "MAGA People." Clearly you do not understand the political shifts happening in the US.